It has been a minute since I've had to time to contribute to the blogs, but I found myself reflecting on some serious failure in time management. I wasted energy trying to lead horses to the water. In the prison of their pride, they were looking for relief without the introspection to recognize when the move from doubt and immaturity, to a life of faith.

How often do you find yourself doing that? Money is spent to help them embrace liberty over bondage. You lead them to the water and their either resist by splashing the water back in your face or expecting you to feed them intravenously. The declare their freedom and free will but expect more from you as though you were the only one required to live at the level of Jesus.

The hypocrisy is astounding and off-putting. You become painted as someone trying to control them when they want zero accountability on their end and total buy-in from you. This is a disaster waiting to happen or already unfolding. Do not debate your principles when you have done nothing wrong but show compassion and concern. The best thing you can do is walk away and afford them the opportunity to learn from their own decisions! Remember, they made the decision, not you! No matter the energy you bring to the table; it has to be their accepted position to take steps to better their lives!

Many times we cannot reach these individuals because they refuse to acknowledge there is a problem or they are the cause. The remote chance that they could be wrong despite the overwhelming evidence. In an article, Why Certain People Will Never Admit They Were Wrong , Guy Winch Ph.D. wrote the following on why people cannot admit that they were wrong:

But what about when a person does push back against the facts, when they simply cannot admit they were wrong in any circumstance? What in their psychological makeup makes it impossible for them to admit they were wrong, even when it is obvious they were? And why does this happen so repetitively — why do they never admit they were wrong?

The answer is related to their ego, their very sense-of-self. Some people have such a fragile ego, such brittle self-esteem, such a weak "psychological constitution," that admitting they made a mistake or that they were wrong is fundamentally too threatening for their egos to tolerate. Accepting they were wrong, absorbing that reality, would be so psychologically shattering, their defense mechanisms do something remarkable to avoid doing so - they literally distort their perception of reality to make it (reality) less threatening. Their defense mechanisms protect their fragile ego by changing the very facts in their mind, so they are no longer wrong or culpable.

When it is this bad, leaving is the only option because they are too far gone. It is now an issue only reparable by God. Prayer and fasting may be the only means you can provide them. Hopefully, it was our first decision.